A student blows up at a teacher, drops the F-bomb. The usual approach at Lincoln – and, safe to say, at most high schools in this country – is automatic suspension. Instead, Sporleder sits the kid down and says quietly: “Wow. Are you OK? This doesn’t sound like you. What’s going on?”
He gets even more specific: “You really looked stressed. On a scale of 1-10, where are you with your anger?” The kid was ready. Ready, man! For an anger blast to his face….”How could you do that?” “What’s wrong with you?”…and for the big boot out of school. But he was NOT ready for kindness.
The armor-plated defenses melt like ice under a blowtorch and the words pour out: “My dad’s an alcoholic. He’s promised me things my whole life and never keeps those promises.” The waterfall of words that go deep into his home life, which is no piece of breeze, end with this sentence: “I shouldn’t have blown up at the teacher.” Whoa.” —Lincoln High School in Walla Walla, WA, tries new approach to school discipline — suspensions drop 85% (via mchotdog)
Instead of saying, ‘Asexuality doesn’t exist,’ try saying, ‘Asexuality is a sexual orientation just like bi, gay, lesbian, and pan.’
Instead of saying, ‘You will know when it’s time to have sex,’ try saying, ‘Love doesn’t equal sex.’
Instead of saying, ‘Have you seen a doctor?’ try saying, ‘There are many happy, healthy relationships that don’t have sex involved in them.’
Instead of saying, ‘This will pass, it is just a phase. Everyone wants sex sometimes,’ try saying, ‘Sexuality is fluid and exists on a huge spectrum. There are many different types of sexuality.’
Instead of saying, ‘Sex is a natural part of adult relationships,’ try saying, ‘Sex and sexuality are complicated to figure out. Give yourself time and space to explore what you are feeling.’” —Asexual Awareness Week’s advice to the Trevor project, from the two-page document drafted by Sara Beth Brooks (pearlsfromthewest). (via lunasspecto)